You be you. Do what makes you happy. That glow will attract the right people to you. Ignore the rest. Their message isn't relevant for your path.
I gave up on finding the perfect guy in my early 30s. I created a life I loved where I was happy and fulfilled on my own. Then the perfect guy for me found me when I was in my 40s. We've been married for over 13 years now.
We never wanted kids, but we have younger people that we mentor, some of whom do feel like our kids.
Convincing women that they'll "never be chosen" and should settle for less than they deserve is a trick invented by guys who don't want to do the work to be better partners, reinforced by other women who regret their own settling.