This is a great article! The one coping skill I'd include is separating the emotional reaction and the problem, accepting and acknowledging the emotion first, and then moving on to the problem. So, if I'm freaking out about something, I can't solve the thing I'm freaking out about until first I deal with the fact that I'm freaking out. Our counselor used the analogy of a closed fist, then the fingers flying open in emotion -- the closed fingers are the thinking part of your brain, and you can't use them until you're calm and they fold back up. This is where knowing your calm-down routines helps. A massage in the massage chair, some alone time reading in the sauna, blowing stuff up in a video game, or consuming large quantities of chocolate... whatever it takes to self-soothe until your rational brain is in control again.