The whipsaws are exhausting. Every day, with every test, the entire situation changes. It goes from "this is a death sentence" to "not a problem, he can go home now" back and forth, we are constantly reacting, and the goal posts are moving so much we don't even know what we're trying to do. Fix him? Keep him comfortable? Ensure good quality of life for his final days? We have no clue. That's what is most frustrating. How can we make the best decision, when we don't even know what metric to use to measure "best" against?