That's one dating lesson I learned long ago -- how someone speaks about their ex is how they'll speak about you. If a guy says "We were too young to get married, but she's a wonderful woman and a great mom," snap him up! If his wife was the most evil shrew who ever set foot this side of Munchkinland, run away! I mean, even the friend who legitimately married a psychopath says the marriage failed because he "made a million small decisions to take the easy way out" rather than to try and establish healthy boundaries. (He would fall in the Keeper category, obviously)