Lol. Reminds me of my husband's recent mantra. "You're upset because you are in pain. Not because of anything I did." (He asks if I'm in pain, first, rather than just assuming it.) Sometimes we do take things out on our nearest and dearest, because we can hide in a cave from everyone else, but they're in the cave with us. And we somehow think we (and they) will be better off if we can drive them out of the cave.