I was studying an educational module on Anger Management, and it contained a whole section on women and anger. Unlike the stereotypical male with anger management issues, who tends to explode and/or get verbally or physically abusive, many women with anger management issues refuse to show any anger. They feel compelled to be "nice" and "pleasant" at all times, but the anger doesn't go away, it just comes out in different ways. There are actually programs to coach women in how to admit that they're angry, and own their anger. So if she knows what she wants, and owns it, I say, "You go, girl!"