I do believe my husband and I are soulmates. But I was in my 40s and he was in his 50s before we became the people we needed to be in order to fit with each other. We also spent years going to couples counseling to learn how to communicate better, how to recognize and unpack triggers, and how to help each other deal with stressful family relationships. Everyone who knows us (who is still single) says we're their ideal for the kind of relationship they're looking for. But it's not because we're soulmates. Being soulmates just gave us the commitment to work that hard on the relationship, knowing it was crucial to achieve what we came to Earth to do.